Strengthen Your Ego! Yes! That's what I said-- STRENGTHEN YOUR EGO!
I even heard Yogi Bhajan forcefully proclaim a number of times, "Nobody
has a bigger
ego than ME!"
Ego is the profound identification of who you are here on Earth. It
enables you to project, to be present, to connect with yourself, with others,
with your life. It is an actual energetic apparatus that functions as our emissary
here on Earth
whose occupation is to feel, know, remember and understand our own
experiences. It includes our thinking mind, emotions, habits and memories.
Ego doing its job allows us to produce, to think, to relate and
personally comprehend,
to evolve. It is charged with protecting and promoting us here. It is
very precious
and absolutely necessary to living a full life. And this essential
thread of our
ego seems to move us through our many lives here on planet Earth. I
often call
it our "everyday self."
SUPERIORITY
Now, it is the weak, un-nourished, needy, unconnected ego-concept of "little me" wanting desperately to be "big me" that gets us into so much hot water.
To compensate
for itself, this little ego can rare up huge to conjure up its own
importance, its
desperate need to be seen, heard and acknowledged by fiercely judging,
looking down
on others, angry, demeaning, manipulating and calculating to have its
own way, demanding,
accusing, throwing tantrums, declaring that its endless needs be met by
others,
aggrandizing itself, hoarding, sucking in money, stuff, style and so
on. This is
what we might normally call "ego" or obsessively huge ego. But in
fact, it is a very wobbly ego that goes haywire because it can't hold the real
essence of Who we are!
INFERIORITY
On the other hand, many of us have operated with the opposite wobbly
ego that truly
believes that it is incapable, that it is insecure, not worthy or
worthwhile or
that it is shameful, that it could never amount to much, that it could
never be seen, heard or acknowledged, that it cannot believe in itself or its
fine gifts, and its reactions are generally inappropriate. It feels squashed and
lonely and
believes deep down that this is simply its lot in life. It may also
feel chaotic
and shattered because it has been so violated, broken, torn apart and
abandoned
that this ego apparatus cannot ever be fully knit back together again.
And the amazing thing is that our broken and wobbly ego can fluctuate
lightening quick between the aggrandizement and the lost and broken, because is
trying its best to compensate for itself. Those are all functions of the weak
and wobbly
ego-no matter how thunderously it may express itself.
But here is the real kicker! Remember that we get what we send out
for? First, in terms of both quantum physics and yogic understanding, the actual
information
or vibration of our subconscious thoughts create or bring to us what we
are projecting-whether
we perceive them as poopy or wonderful. And on the other hand we
interpret everything
that occurs in our life through our own ego's prism!
Consequently, if someone would say or do something against us, our weak
ego might
interpret that as putting us down where we deserve to be. Or a wobbly
ego may see
that action as mean and calling for us to retaliate in kind. The habit
of being a victim can cause every interaction-even kind and helpful
interactions to be interpreted
as expressions of their victimizer. It is often by this habit of
perception that
a victim can turn everyone and everything into their victimizer, no
matter what
the real situation is.
This weak and wobbly ego pulls us into habits of real, penetrating and
sometimes unbearable pain. Then often we try to switch off that pain by
escaping to addictions-alcohol,
drugs, shopping, sex, work, intellectualization-you name it!
But if our ego is genuinely, softly powerful enough to be centered,
cohesive and neutral, which is fully open and aware, that allows us to comprehend
the actual truth of the whole situation, which is that the other person is
having a genuine problem with their own wobbly ego. So, in response, let's throw some
healing energy
their way, while we appropriately protect ourselves and others from
their wobbly projection-be that physical, psychological or energetic.
SO, WHAT THE HECK IS A STRONG EGO?
Well, a truly strong ego is one that is unflappable, not because it is
tight and clinching its teeth, but because it is truly relaxed, in pure
neutrality, and humble
to its Soul. A strong ego is totally grounded to enable it to hold the
very genuine
expansive "space" of Soul (or God, or Guru, or grace, or the Christ
presence) that
is available at every nanosecond. A truly strong ego can stay centered
and neutral
no matter what is happening. A strong ego stays present and true to
the messages
from its own Real Self, its Soul, and follows them explicitly, without
hesitation,
but in full flow!
A strong ego is essentially kind and loving-although not in any mushy
way. It is without malice but can stay fierce to fight to the death if that is
Soul's direction. I am always reminded of Guru Gobind Singh shooting arrows tipped with
gold so that
his dead opponent's family could bury their member.
A strong ego implicitly calls on its Soul's guidance. Your strong ego
is actually
present in the expanded "space" of your Soul and moves or dances with
Soul's direction. I have heard that when Guru Dev Singh was massaging Yogi Bhajan's
feet, he found
the master to be entirely neutral-not numb, but fully present, expanded
and balanced. And then when Yogi Bhajan did his work-yelling hellfire and brimstone
at a student so that he could energetically work with the student, Guru Dev Singh
still found that Yogi Bhajan's energy was unchanged. This is a strong ego.
A strong ego will not react because reacting is no longer in its habit
pattern. But it will flow with Soul's extraordinary guidance. It will trust
Soul, rather
than making all the final decisions without the aid of Infinite
Consciousness on its side. A strong ego is not bound by societal norms or
institutional dictates
because it expresses Soul's pure creativity and fully pertinent Truth
in every moment.
Your strong ego is open to the magic of allowing Soul to rearrange,
seemingly evaporate
challenging situations for the betterment of all concerned. A strong
ego will allow
and serve the adventure that Soul leads it to, remaining engaged in its
profound and continuous healing process that allows it to become even
stronger/softer/more
flowing in its alignment with Soul. The Soul's goals are the goals of
the strong
ego.
HOW DO WE GET A WEAK AND WOBBLY EGO?
Of course, we take on a weak and wobbly ego for the purpose of growth,
abilities and wisdom that we gain when we finally straighten it out, heal it,
that is. Read
more on this process at www.SoulAnswer.com/karma.html.
But to the point, our egos usually get this way in response to the
experiences-whether
traumatic or grand that we have had in past lifetimes. Then we-as our
Soul choose
parents, environments, situations (karmas) that will provoke similar
reactions from
us in this lifetime so we can finally, straighten out our ego-that
which holds our
Consciousness in this lifetime. What a system, eh?
So, if we have had parents or others who demeaned us, shamed us,
refused to recognize
the great Soul that flows through us, abandoned or abused us, did not
protect or inspire us, or caused us great trauma, this definitely mangles the
developing ego
of the sensitive, dependent and impressionable child. It robs us of
the power and
self-recognition of a strong ego. It cripples us in sometimes
outrageous ways.
But now, Dear Egos is the time to forgive them and the part that they
have played
in our life's drama. After all, we, as our most profound Consciousness
sought them
out to provide the stuff of our life's challenges-in fact to become our
ego's muscle
building equipment where can train to become truly strong!
HOW DO WE GET A STRONG EGO?
We start by becoming our own parents! Our actual parents' job is over,
and now it is time for us to take charge of our own development rather than
remaining a
victim of it! That is we become totally conscious so that if something
is not going
right in our life and it is our parent's voice that leads us down the
road of difficult
reactions, it is time for that part of ourselves that is often called
the Witness
or the Will to coolly and objectively look the situation over, and
determine to
change the old embedded habits.
It means fully recognizing yourself as essentially good and
worthwhile-no matter what has happened. Forgiving yourself and others profoundly in the
depth of your
consciousness, and loving, loving, loving your self-your wobbly ego
even though
it trips itself up a lot like a precious little child. And, of course
love your Soul Self, looking to Soul for the extraordinary love and help that
is present
for you always. You don't have to earn it, you know. It is just there
for you
all of the time! Accepting that and making space for Soul to come
through at every
moment is the "Path"!
This course of action could begin with something as simple as
initiating long, deep breathing when we feel under attack or at a loss, which then allows our
emotions and mind to unlock so that we can go to neutral and deal unobstructed
with the
situation. What an incredible difference that makes, believe me.
Doing any kind of Kundalini Yoga and meditation slices through those
energetic knots. It turns them inside out, heals them and helps you create a platform
of Soul's
wisdom for your strengthening, balance and lighthearted ego. You know
my favorite
transformational mantra is Gobinday, Mukunday.... www.SoulAnswer.com/gobinde.html
And for lots more, go to www.SoulAnswer.com/kriyas.html
This process includes not taking all of your reactions so seriously.
That is loosening
up those white knuckles that have been holding so tightly onto some
reaction of
righteousness, or shame, or anger, or whatever it is that consumes you
so that you
cannot lightly and powerfully flow with your "space" of Soul.
Strengthening your ego to continuously and calmly project your very
Soul, your God
Self may sometimes be a challenge, but what else is there to do but
live in perpetual
misery and insecurity? This journey is the greatest one there could
ever be! Strong,
flowing ego. Yummm!
Lots of Love,
Siri-Gian Kaur
Copyright Siri-Gian Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com
2010.
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